Singleness is painful for many, not only because of our disappointed hopes, but also because it so often raises questions about God’s character and about our own value:
Am I invisible? Unattractive? Uninteresting? Too picky? Too hard to communicate with? Am I too deeply flawed for love? Does God care about my love life? Is there anything He can do actually do? Has He simply forgotten me?
Eleven years ago, Boundless published “One Single Day,” an article with a message I’m still telling today, because it’s still relevant to my experience, and it’s still true:
Life hurts.
But God (deeply, truly) loves me!
That changes everything.
This is how He is guarding my heart from the confusion and cynicism and even despair I see nipping at the heels of those who, like me, haven’t moved into marriage — something we thought would have happened long ago. This deep, heart-level knowing is what I most deeply long for my blood siblings to experience — and what I pray for you right now:
For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ…
(from Ephesians 3:14-21)
Elisabeth Adams 